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FREEDMAN’S ADVICE: BE CURIOUS, NOT JUDGEMENTAL

First off, I have to admit that this is not my advice in the sense that it originated from me; this is Walt Whitman’s from his book of poems, Leaves of Grass. . .and lately it’s been trending because of the amazing Apple TV show Ted Lasso. Nonetheless, I’m going to cite it as my own because I love it! 

For me, there seems no easier way to avoid conflict in this life than to embrace curiosity as your priority. In my experience, things seem to work out when my purpose is to understand. On the flip side, things usually head south pretty quickly when I judge! Not that judging is something I don’t do — I judge. . .I’m human — but when I slow things down and aim to understand something, I remove all the fears and worries and blind spots in my life, and that usually means I’m heading in the right direction. 

We judge what we fear; and we fear what we don’t understand. 

So, if I was to give one piece of advice it would be this:  Be curious, not judgemental. And I would give it to literally every single registered voter in the United States (and the world, for that matter). I think if we could all do a little less judging of the people we elect to run our country, we might just raise the bar for what qualifies as good leadership. In my experience, the act of judging is not the act of thinking, it is the act of pointing fingers. When I step into the voting booth I want to feel confident that I have thought through the pros and cons of every candidate on the ballot. I want to be informed! I don’t want to simply vote for someone because they’re Republican or Democrat or Independent; I want to feel confident voting for a candidate because I took the time to ask questions about the issues they stand for, the experience they bring to the table, and the plan they offer to do what’s right, not simply what’s easy.

The act of going into a voting booth and casting my ballot just because the candidate is associated with some political party I tend to agree with does not seem like thinking, it seems like the judgment of the other candidate. 

You know what, I’m going to expand my audience scope here! This advice is also aimed at you future voters.  One day you might find yourself walking into your local polling place, and my hope is that you do so with your eyes wide open, not your heart filled with fear. In that moment, in all that excitement, I want you to take that deepest of deep breaths . . . inhale, exhale . . . and remind yourself: Be curious, not judgemental!

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